What Confidence Means to Brittanny

What does confidence mean to you?

Handling your shit unapologetically. Living into your potential even when the cards are stacked against you. I spent the majority of my younger years worried so much about other people’s thoughts about me and drowning in self-insecurity and it was a miserable way to live. Side note: I just had to ask Patsy what word was the opposite of confidence. Patsy: Insecure? Me: Yes, I don’t have insecurity anymore so I forgot the word.

Being a confident person means that I am living a meaningful life. Getting stuck in self-doubt makes you miss out on really amazing opportunities. That is no way to live.

Do you have a favorite book that inspires confidence?

I love Gretchen Rubin’s Better Than Before and The Four Tendencies. I love a personality test and any information that helps me become a better person. These two books helped me develop how I can best work and show up in the world more confidently.

How does knowing your Enneagram Type empower you?

Knowing I am a Type 1 (the reformer), it validated a lot of my personality that could be considered undesirable qualities. From the Enneagram Institute: Type 1 Key Motivations are: Want to be right, to strive higher and improve everything, to be consistent with their ideals, to justify themselves, to be beyond criticism so as not to be condemned by anyone.

Well, that’s accurate. No one likes a know-it-all, but sometimes you just know it all, you know (I never said I was humble)? We have ideals that maybe we can’t even live up to and our inner critic (the little voice that lives in the head of Type 1s) can’t wait to tell us that we messed up.

Knowing the darker side of how your type works is actually empowering for me because when my brain takes me to that place of I’m not doing enough or I’m criticizing my work, I can remember that it’s my inner critic talking to me and that I am actually doing the best that I can.

Who do you admire for their confidence?

I love Lizzo. I pretty much embody a DGAF attitude at all times so it’s great to watch a sickeningly talented, stunningly beautiful Black woman out there showing a different kind of beauty and confidence that rejects societal norms.

How are you practicing confidence this summer?

I’m wearing the shorts and I’m ditching the makeup. The older I get, the less I care about covering up. Can you imagine me wearing jeans and long sleeve shirts in the summer when I was in college? Once I hit 30, I realized covering myself up out of fear of how someone else may perceive my body is a crappy way to live. Don’t get me wrong, I love a shapeless all black look, but I’ve been experimenting with looks that I wouldn’t have worn when I was younger.

I also go to Bikram yoga classes as much as I can. Watching how the practice has changed my body over the year I’ve been going has grown my confidence. I can see the amazing things my body can do now that I wasn’t able to do before. It has made me love and respect the physical body I live in.