And Celebrate | Strength in Collective Mindset
It’s Monday, errrr Tuesday, (hey technically today lands in “early in the week” territory) and there is no better way to kick off the week than in the right frame of mind!
If you spend any amount of time scrolling through Instagram or the internet at large you’ve seen the posts and heard the messages from leaders in the personal development space —and beyond, chirping the message, “mindset is everything.” As much as it makes me want to roll my eyes too, I hear Brittanny’s voice in my head saying, “they’re not wrong,” and my heart knows it’s TRUE.
If it’s one thing all of humanity has in common, it’s the constant push-and-pull we experience between the head and the heart. The brain is wired to keep us safe and it’s easily programmed to imprint other people’s stories onto us if we’re not diligent enough to consciously choose to remind it what our truth truly is (that authentic guidance system is often quietly nudging us from our gut or heart). Our minds are designed to look for evidence of past scenarios that prove the thing “we’ve been telling ourselves.” But there is an important thing to note here, the “we’ve been telling ourselves” piece can actually be re-written, and also is very rarely our own story! Once you’ve activated a new level of conscious awareness, you can re-write the story. Or in other words, change your mindset. Warning: every time you begin to write a new story old evidence will present itself to prove that the old story is still “true.” And, that’s when you’ve got to start creating new evidence that aligns with your new story for that pesky mind to attach to!
OK, that got pretty deep, pretty fast. (I have a tendency to go there. I can’t really help myself).
But, I assure you, the story I’m about to share is applicable to adjusting your mindset to accomplish every day desired outcomes and a metaphor/framework for working through the deeper stuff too.
This mindset theme really came into play when I helped my oldest, dearest friend move into her new apartment this weekend. It was a task society might deem two young women with little “packing” experience unfit for. But let me tell you, we freakin’ aced that move all on our own with just two trips to the storage unit, piled into a 2005 Toyota Camry and a fairly worn pickup truck with a cab.
She is strong. I am limber. We made a great team. From the start, we were amping ourselves and each other up with a whole lot of, “heck, yes, we’ve got this - there is nothing we can’t handle,” pep.
When we first got to the storage unit, I looked at my friend, and she looked at me. I could tell she was feeling overwhelmed. So, I quickly jumped into, “it’s really not that much. We’ll take our time and move the little things into my car first.” The more we moved out and into vehicles, the more we began to believe the “heck, yes, we’ve got this - there is nothing we can’t handle” narrative!
The more we pumped each other up, the more flow we found, and the more fun we had. When one got overwhelmed, the other stepped up to remind her that we had this. And, every time we successfully (precariously) stacked another piece of furniture in the truck, we didn’t hesitate to celebrate by saying, “damn, we’re good!” —which drove home the evidence, that we were in fact cut out for this mission.
In reflecting on this since, the phrase, “talk to yourself (your mind, that voice in your head) like you would your own best friend,” came to me. If my friend and I had talked to each other like we would have talked to ourselves if we’d been alone, we likely would have gone nowhere fast.
Mindsets can be unbelievably contagious for the best —and the worst. So the next time you’re up against a challenge, or you catch yourself believing a story your mind is telling you that doesn’t actually belong to you, pause and re-evaluate. Reach for some evidence that proves the narrative that is aligned with your capital T-R-U-T-H, TRUTH.
And if you find yourself in the thick of it, unable to re-direct your mindset on your own, remember to talk to yourself like you would your own best friend —or better yet, just give them a call. Ask them to remind you of what’s possible. Often that’s all it takes to put your mind in its place and point out evidence that you can’t see when you’re being blinded by that never-ending not-so-helpful mind chatter.